Choice, Happiness, Passion, Self Confidence, Self Love, Transformation

Are you holding back the year

Welcome to a New YEAR!

New Opportunities!

New Adventures!

New era! WOW! Can you believe it is 2014 already!?????

Yes – I said era! And No, I wouldn’t have believed that 12 months ago that you can create a new era in your life every year……because it is just another year, right? I know some of you are over the New Year Resolution Movement already and it is only week 3…well I don’t make resolutions any more – I create projects – structured ideas – an evolution of opportunity!

Only this time, what is the difference you ask? I have no doubt about my ability to make it all happen! Because I no longer am concerned with holding back……(yes and right now you are all singing “Simply Red” holding back the years…… 🙂 )

Ok – first things, first!


A little bit of trivia – apparently it is THE X-Files 20th anniversary this year….I remember this being one of my favourite shows to watch as a teenager…(I wasn’t allowed to watch much TV – however I could sneak this in on a Wednesday night 😉 )..I remember being captured by the thought and the intrigue….

What is really possible? Is there life outside of this planet? Does science really explained everything?? Is the FBI that twisted & filled with conspiracy theories? How amazing would it be to live and work in another country and see how the world operates for them? What is it that is so exciting about the idea of living in another country?

Not much has changed really in the way of my viewing – however … I love to watch Once Upon a Time – because finally someone has answered what happens when the fairy tale story comes to an end and it says “THE END”! LOL! They go on living! And I love that they go on living with passion; with honour; with adventure and with love.

Come on….everyone has something that they love to get lost in – it is how we still use our imagination as adults…right?

When did you stop imagining the impossible? 

Each year is an opportunity to explore; live; love; laugh and take on the world with everything you have! The excitement of the unknown; and the known; the options; choices; places; people……I get goosebumps just thinking about it!!!!

Then I think of the crazy ideas…..or previous conversations with people……….Have you ever been to New York? Do you want to go to New York and have a Starbucks coffee in Central Park – wouldn’t it be a great place to people watch? (i did this by the way 🙂 )

Nah….we can now have a Starbucks coffee anywhere now – that is nothing exciting – you can even have Starbucks in Peru!!!

Well do you want to go to Peru and see where Paddington Bear comes from? Nah….I just read the story or google the pictures.

Ok; how about going to the Pyramids in Egypt and experiencing first hand the magnificence awe of the structures and the history of the people??? or ride a donkey into the Valley of the Kings at sunrise – feel the sun warm your skin? Nah; I can just watch a documentary on TV.

 Well do you want to write a story? Be a famous published author!? Share your thoughts with the world!  Nah…..everyone has written everything already.

MMmmmmmmmm do we see a pattern here?

As I look around and watch people at the start of a new year; a blessing that we all have to enjoy & how lucky we are to have so many different opportunities and choices, however it would seem that we have forgotten what it is like to experience the ‘real thing’; experience for ourselves first hand the sounds; taste; sight with OUR BODIES! with OUR HEARTS! with OUR SENSES!

holding on

As I reflected; thanked & welcomed in this amazing, exciting, BEST YEAR YET!! – with a close friend; – (I know it will be because that is how I am creating it) we enjoyed talking and getting excited about what is going to happen. 🙂 It felt good!

However on the days that followed and the more I spoke with people; the more I reflected on this, as I realised that it doesn’t feel like people are really living any more…..they just seem to be ‘existing’ – holding on tight – to what I don’t know – holding on to the past – holding to the dream of something better – holding on to the resentment or pain or joyful memories for fear that they won’t have anymore??? It feels like we are holding on so tight that we don’t know how to let go that which doesn’t serve us anymore?

Whether it is FEAR or SADNESS or ANGRY – something is gripping us so tight….It is like we have forgotten what it is like to let go  – to spin yourself around and around and around in circles til you’re so dizzy you fall over with the giggles and lay on the grass and feel like the world is trying to catch up with you!!! 🙂

We don’t know how to let go anymore – we seem to have forgotten that there is magic in the world because we have become so weighed down in “baggage”, that our promises to ourselves to live a life filled with joy; love; laughter; excitement; energy; peace & passion – seems ‘unrealistic’.

Moving forward……

I am no expert – this is just my observations – I just get this feeling that this is the year – is the year to stop holding back – the year to stop holding on to the past – the pain – the sadness – the what’ if’s or should have’s.

Aren’t you tired of always being tired? Of wondering what is missing?

I know I was and I realised that for the first time in a long time as this year came into being – I am not afraid of letting go anymore; because it is easier to jump from indecision city platform onto a moving train that is going forward, when you have both hands free!

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – make no promises that don’t feel real  – make no promises that don’t give you goosebumps – start small and  go from there – don’t do what I did last year – don’t put your life on-hold waiting for the next thing – and then cram 12 months of the year into 6 months! GO OUT THERE & TRY!

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – find something that gets you excited! That makes you feel like everything is possible!

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – find something that makes you smile – the kind of smile that hurts your cheeks! That way others will smile too when they see you smile! 🙂 Go see a kid’s movie once a month….

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – love yourself just as you are; right now – don’t waste another second! STOP worry about what other people think of you – it is really none of your business 🙂

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – take some time out and look deep into your heart and your memories and forgive – forgive once and for all.

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – find the magic again in the world – let your imagination run wild – what is the one thing that you have always wanted to do?????????? What if this year was the year you did it? How would it feel when you look back at the photo of yourself in that destination with all of your senses alive with the experience; because you were there?

You’ve got this!

My challenge to you is – GET OUT THERE AND LIVE! LIVE! LIVE! Be the example to those around you!

You’ve got this!

I can’t wait to see what you do!!!!!!!!!!


Self Love

To be showered by Gratitude or to shower others with Gratitude……what do you do!!!????

Do you have any favourite words? sayings? or something that you do that gives you tingles of excitement?? You know, that one thing that someone could do or say and you melt into the ground……………………

For me there are way too many to list on here……however I wanted to share a few…

Favourite word; Serendipity is the effect by which one accidentally discovers something fortunate, especially while looking for something entirely unrelated! (The even made a movie in 2001 – A couple reunite years after the night they first met, fell in love, and separated, convinced that one day they’d end up together….ahhhh – tingles.)

Favourite smell; the ocean air, fresh strawberries warm in the sunshine as you bite into them; a coffee that is in the process of being brewed……a man who’s scent is a mixture of body odor and their cologne just after they have had a shower….. or a new born baby as they snuggle into you…..

Favourite time of day – sunrise and sunset (come on…too hard to decide between!)

Favourite saying; ” It is LOVE that makes the impossible possible” – Indian Proverb (yes, the secret is out…I am a hopeless romantic)

Favourite moment; when you are hugging someone and neither of you wants to let go…or a photo of a place that you have been and upon looking at it, you are magically transported back there – the noises; the people; the smells; the feeling of being there is in every sense…..

Oh and of late……………“GRATITUDE” it has become my favourite action/being/doing/have moment all rolled into one!

Being GRATITUDE……………

I love the sound of the word “Gratitude”; I love the action of it and the way it makes me feel; I love; love; love; what I have been able to achieve and the impact that having ‘gratitude’ and sharing it with others and telling them how much I appreciate them; being thankful for everything, big and small…….I love how much that has made a difference in my life so much more now than ever before!

It was such a simple lesson; however took me over 20 years to learn what it really meant.

Yes, I was brought up to be grateful for everything and I am thankful to my mum for this lesson (bless her) however I never really got how to be grateful to me; it was always the gratitude outside and not the inside. 

However it is only recently that I realised that it didn’t matter how much “Gratitude” I showed; or what I did for others, myself or the world….If I wasn’t grateful for me; for my life…. then nothing seemed to align…and once you align….that is where you truly start to make magic!

Showering myself in “Gratitude“…

So first step……Thank you to my mum – Thank you for having me; giving birth to me; never leaving my side; never giving up on me; for always loving me – I am so grateful for the new medical intervention that had arrived and that my mum was open to it being used on me to give me the best chance at a quality life. (*Side note; I was born at 26.5 weeks – so 3 months early in 1979 – very different era!)

Thank you to the my doctor; my nurses; the people who gave blood (you will never know what that meant for me & hence why I give blood now).

Thank you to my great grandma; who always believed that I would live and be a fighter in this world! (She must of had a 6th sense).

However in all of this for which I have always been grateful of…….I realised the last few weeks; I have had many- a- AHHH moment – from everything to this blog, to relationships; to friendships; to work; to study; to my fitness/health….in people’s generosity; love and support in this journey of taking my life to the next level!

Plus I have had a few mini meltdown moments…..when I realised that the contract I had written myself which expired on the eve of my 34th birthday…had all been achieved minus 1 thing – (unrealistic expectations maybe that society says that I should be married by now??? I am ok that I am not; because I don’t care what society things anymore; because it will happen when it is meant to happen).

However; in all of it – I realised that the 1 key missing ingredient was that, I hadn’t been “grateful’ to the one thing that I was living in – my body! I have loved the transformation of my mind; my heart; my soul – however I finally got to see, that by being grateful for how far I have come and what is out there for me to discover/create/live into and enjoy; it all comes back to love… loving this body…to being grateful for what it does everyday! From sleeping; to breathing; to pumping blood around my veins……..I love this body! and if I can’t say “I love you and I am grateful for you”, then nothing is really going to work very well at all…is it????


I also got that “AHHH MOMENTS” will never never stop! For so long I wanted my body to look like the magazines (yes the photo shopped ones) or the actor or my best friend who could wear a swimsuit and not have her legs wobble. I went on eating regimes…and fad diets; crazy gym sessions…all because that is what others did because I wanted their body….I wasn’t grateful for my own.

My AHH MOMENT was the other morning at Bootcamp…all of the women were of different shape, size and fitness – & even me with my ankle – off to the side doing the ‘alternative’ workout -I realised that for so long I have been doing this to have someone else’s body & for the first time ever…I didn’t have body envy!!!


HENCE this little picture below is perfect! Since starting this program with Kylie Ryan, I am FINALLY now doing it for me and my body; because I deserve it and this is me…… Curvy and Fabulous! or as you know me on here & my PT Trainer Paula, also likes to calls me in our sessions….. Little Miss Fabulousness!

And look, even though some days I want that number…or that picture…I have the power now; not that inanimate object of either or the unrealistic expectation – I am so grateful that my body; heart; soul and mind are in harmony now! I GET TO BE ME! 🙂

And I love me 🙂 And I am amaze at what I can do now……it is exciting! 

Ps. Thank you to for this perfect picture below – plus check out her blog – she is inspiring! 

So now what…….

So shower yourself in “gratitude’ every morning; every evening; every second; and you will find that you will shower others with ease because you will glow with it! (And yes….like I have said before….write it on your mirror so you can read it, every time you look at you!!!)

So go now; look in the mirror – before you got to work; while in the car; before the big meeting; be grateful; just try it – for everything – from the coffee; to the red light; to the free parking space; to your body that carries you in this life; to your heart that is beating and gets excited when you are doing the things you love 🙂 because you know what…this is it – this is our chance to live our life with everything we have….AND I AM GRATEFUL that I am here to live it! 

So…what are you waiting for….go…..I am serious…How many times today have you looked in the mirror and said “Thank you for being you”? Please…do it…do it for you.

By living into “Gratitude” everyday, there is no question because the answer arrives before you have even spoken it….you just have to be it – love that is – LOVE 🙂  

So my gratitude extends to the following women who I have loved getting to know and follow their passion in relation to body love!

Thank you to Amber Dawn Hunter….I love this saying & this is the reason why I train now – for me 🙂 


Sexy is not a size; every Calorie is not a war; your Body is not a battleground & your Value is not measured by kgs!

“I am beautiful and worthy just as I am; because I am.