About 18months ago someone asked me; Can you give yourself permission to feel the joy in the moment???!!!??
My immediate reaction was; No!
So now I am asking you……..Can you give yourself permission to feel the JOY in the moment???!!!??
Mmm..What is JOY?
It is defined as; “a feeling of great pleasure and happiness”. Other words include – delight; bliss; rapture; glee; and triumph!
So I became to wonder…..when did we start thinking that we had to have other people’s permission to feel or NOT to feel?
So today, I wanted to share with you some tips to explore this further for yourself – (10 mins tops I promise!)
- Awareness is the first step….
Acknowledging how we feel is important for our everyday living – our emotions/thoughts have a massive impact on our lives – yet we are so bound by a ‘system’ that says we all have to ‘be a certain way’. And while it is important to respect others; when did we stop respecting ourselves.
I realised that holding back and allowing the ‘negative’ thoughts/emotions; was only damaging me – no one else – because no one actually knew how I felt plus it reflected in my body (weight – insomnia – anxiety) – and in my life!
So start to just notice the emotions (now I am not saying burst out with everything all at once…no one wants a hole in the wall, should you explode)…..but just at lunchtime today…take some time to check in with yourself – ask the question; “How am I feeling right now?”
Next – just notice where that feeling is in your body….listen to that feeling….be aware of it…what happened today that you just dismissed? Start to listen to your self as the incredible human being that you are…..you are important…
- Acknowledge it…
Regardless of the emotion (anger; love; sadness; joy) just allow it to be – and then “thank” the emotion for bring to your attention where you are not giving yourself permission to feel and BE honest with you – it is not serving anyone by dismissing how you are feeling. Have you ever noticed that how emotions can spread….if you smile at someone…they can’t help but smile back at you 😉
This is where you start to notice a shift – it will take time…..however for me, I noticed that when I was honest with myself and gave myself permission to feel the emotion…it didn’t take long to move on to another one (ie; if I was pissed off…feeling it and allowing it to be (or writing it down…..) made room for the next emotion…I started to notice that I felt happy more than I felt sad. That feeling both is normal…every emotion is right – we have them for a reason.
NOW I do feel JOY and I can give myself permission to FEEL it – because it isn’t as scary as I thought and it actually takes less energy to feel and acknowledge than it does to shove down with food as was my previous coping strategy!
JOY is more than happiness; pleasure; delight; bliss; rapture; glee & triumph….Joy is whatever you want it to be!
Your JOY can be allowing yourself to feel happy or giving yourself permission to love & start dating again…or JUMPING UP & DOWN when you achieve that big contract at work!!!
JOY is more than just that…or it can be as simple as that….you get to decide your reaction 🙂
So this weekend…take some time out of your day…(yes I know you are busy; but this is a great little exercise plus 1 hour is 4% of your day..you have time to give yourself 4% of your day!)
- Write down all of the things that bring JOY to you……
- Then write down all of the things that are JOY to you…..
- Then write down all of the things that you do that STOP JOY from being in you….
- Then start to make a plan…..Reduce the inflammation in your life and make room for JOY!
For me now….JOY is every cell in my body working together to be the best version of me – JOY is Being awesome in the moment!
This week, I have started writing in my journal again….just a few lines every morning upon waking…..
So today…I wanted to REALLY feel JOY –
Feel the joy of the sun on my skin…
Feel the joy of a hug from someone I love….
Feel the joy of breathing air into my lungs….
Feel the joy of being alive!
So why not now…JUMP FOR JOY – right at your computer! Make it your self-expression today – to feel your own definition of JOY!
I would love to know what your definition of JOY is – share below 🙂
Oh and at the end of the week… a few photos to celebrate Little Miss Fabulousness turning 1!