Dear Self Worth; Nice to meet you 🙂
Have you ever noticed how your self worth is a direct mirror/reflection of the worth of the level of abundance around you?
(You are probably thinking….oh my gosh; she has had too many vinos before writing this week’s entry….LOL! However this realisation was something that had never occurred to me until my 3 day workshop with Kylie Ryan (My Mind Coach) back in March this year and I wanted to share it with you now as it has been a massive part of my journey & something that I didn’t want to share because I didn’t want to appear selfish 😦 )
Now it is something that I work on every day with gratitude followed by action.
Today is just a normal day….like any other day….today another brick in the yellow brick road has been placed down because I want my outsides to match my insides. My values to match my worth…..shifts happen….just like that….(click of the fingers)
Vegas or Bust…….
My relationship with myself is mirrored in everything….my body; my thoughts; my career; my relationships;……..money $$$$$$$$$$$$
Previously my self worth was attached to what people thought of me or my interpretation of their opinions; peoples’ reactions to my body; my career; my status of being single or in a couple; what I wore…what I can afford…..so now that I had shifted that….everything was on track right? We are getting there…..everything except MONEY….
Money…..something that I was afraid of (I know….odd right???)…Why??? Because I made a decision, that I had seen it destroy families; friendships; marriages….even though it makes the world go ’round….for some reason I didn’t feel worthy of having any money….of being abundant; successful; secure; comfortable – I felt like when I was surrounded by money; it wasn’t real….all I knew was “struggle” and that was evident in what my words & actions mirrored to the world; that was my old identity and this shift in my life; in all areas, is about becoming a better version of myself; what I choose to become…..
Piggy Bank…..breakable or valuable?
I knew my values; or so I thought. ….IF you ask people; values are values…..so when breaking it down; I had to look at what was important to me – this task was easy or so I thought….because I never had” just written them down”; it just wasn’t something that you do.
I had never written down 10-20 values; prioritizing them and noticing how they felt for me; ha……. value matching…..a rather important task in self worth; relationships with self and others; don’t you think????????
- Blissful Passionate Love with myself; my family; my friends; my community
- Abundant Luxuriously Vibrant Wealth
- 100% Vitality in health, energy & fitness so that I can live until I am 100
A tool that I was taught in recognizing the above (which please note as your circumstances change; you can change the adjust the placing)…I can then BE DO HAVE; this into action; quick example:
- Be= Confident
- Do= Making bonus every week at work with integrity & passion
- Have= Abundance
My self worth; your self worth, isn’t measured by what is in bank account. By believing in my self worth with love and gratitude; I get to play hard on the court….play the game; of which, I get to set the bar. It is measured in how I love; how freely I give; how I take care of me; how open I am to learning/evolving; acknowledgement of gratitude & joy in the little things AND Self LOVE – because this is what it is all about 🙂
Because I was in a place of happiness and once I started doing BE DO HAVE…..things started to flow….little things like finding a $1 coin on the ground; unexpected gifts; winning movie tickets; bottles of wine; tickets to seminars;….and now I am focusing on the bigger things….moving my life to the next level with my values that align; one step forward on the yellow (GOLD) brick road.
Energy flows where your attention goes….so what are you focusing on??? Lack/Struggle or Worthiness of Abundance????
COME ON; JUST STOP IT! STOP IT! Stop hiding…..stop making excuses; you are so worth it…..whatever it is you want……Go write a list of the things you desire…..that you truly desire; from your heart…the very depths of your heart….the things that you only whisper to yourself……you are enough……you are worthy….it is ok for you to have what you want….whether it is money; love; relationships; health; adventure…..IT IS LIFE…..please know that…please don’t wait as long as I did to discover that you can have anything you want 🙂
Ps. If you get stuck check out TED TALKS….http://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_on_vulnerability.html?quote=871
This little mantra is on my mirror and I love saying it daily 🙂
I am worthy & deserve to live the life of my dreams!
This is my little mantra –
“Sexy is not a size; every Calorie is not a war; your Body is not a battleground & your Value is not measured by kgs!
“I am beautiful and worthy just as I am; because I am.”